There is a joke that perfectly describes the relationship with the narcissist.

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On a date, the girl says to the guy:

"You know what, we've been talking for two hours and you're still talking about yourself." Maybe we'll talk about me for a change.

What does he do:

- Of course. Tell me if you like me.

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    Narcissus  this  personality  today  times.  This  someone,  who  not  returns  remarks  on  other,  occupied  yourself, yours  needed  and pleasures. So is the mythical Narcissus. 

Mythical Narcissus,  he aroused love among girls and nymphs, but he was not interested in any.  He rejected  too  the love of the nymph Echo, which melted from despair and remained after her  just a voice. The gods chose to punish Narcissus, v  As a result, the self-absorbed Narcissus fell in love with  own  reflection in water. Unable to  to touch the object of his love, he died of despair and changed  myself  in flower.

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Sad truth

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    If you still love  your narcissist and hope to heal him, change him, and live long and  happily this -  I  of course I wish you this with all my heart. Unfortunately, the sad truth is that he is not looking for a partner , there is no room for another person in his life. WITH  this reason  is not  it's easy to love a narcissist.  Consequently, your desires and needs are ignored or unnoticed.  There is  this  especially  frustrating  when  it depends  U.S  on  creation  mutually 

satisfactory   relationship. Often for the sake of a relationship  we try  to see only the positive sides of the partner, and to minimize it  importance of destructive traits and behaviors.

    However, one must honestly say no in the relationship with the narcissist  there is room for nobody but the narcissist so forget you and yours  needs will be noticed, or  that your personal happiness will be  made any difference. This is not your job.   Your role in relation to the narcissist is to rave about the narcissist. Give him a testimony every day that he is unique and  wonderful. However, remember that narcissists get bored quickly. So don't be surprised if  will look for a new applauding z  delight,   and  You? If you are not going to him anymore  need it  will abandon you, nothing  without translating, using mosting - that is, it will disappear  like a spirit creating  before that, such an atmosphere in which there is no reason to end the relationship . Or  he will convince  You, it's you  you are guilty of the breakdown of your relationship because you did not live up to what you expected. Anyway  you will be left with guilt and trauma.  

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    Narcissus is a clever manipulator. Choosing people for your mirror in which you will be  viewed and felt special,   is guided by a certain type of personality. Usually chooses people attractive, but  unsure of their value or which are "donors" in a relationship.  

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The ideal victim of a narcissist is a highly sensitive person (OWW or HSP - Highly Sensitive Person ). Why?

1.  It is in the nature of such a person to give and this  means sensitive people  often submit  other people's needs above your own. Forgetting about myself.  

2.  Persons  sensitive  are  very  Open  on  other.  They occupy  myself  things  and  problems  other  people,  are 

how  containers  down  store emotions. Very  often confuse others' emotions with their own by feeling  eat as intensely as yours  own.  

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3. If you have low self-esteem, you may overlook signs that something is wrong that you are not being treated properly.  You ignore the fact that the narcissist is offending you, thereby allowing  to keep treating you badly  and disrespectfully.

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4.  if  you feel  myself  victim  or  In  past  you were  victim,  this  by  way  In  what  myself  you keep  you say what your body language is ...  you expose this belief to the outside world. Narcissus will immediately notice it and choose it  your goal.

5. Sensitivity of highly sensitive people  on feelings and emotions  other,  means they can't say no.  Refusal seems wrong to them,  causing distress and hurting others. You think that since  you feel  the other person's emotions you have to  do something about it, help it, reduce the suffering ...

Don't forget that  you are not responsible for other people's feelings.  

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    Highly sensitive people, donors or those with low self esteem often do  the need to flood the narcissist  love, show you how  is important to them. When this moment comes  when a narcissist becomes dissatisfied  feel guilty it's because of  them have a bad temper that they are not good enough for the narcissist so they try even harder and harder. They want to make up for his suffering and sorrow, they want to take all the pain on them  a narcissistic existence.  And this is  wrong  wheel,  you will never please a narcissist, he will always be  he wanted more and more, and hearing how unhappy he (or she) is, because you do not meet his expectations, you will try to love him more, give more of yourself, allow  cross another border ...  With the hope that he will be interested in you again, he will be nice and charming again. You will become  "the little match girl" from Andersen's fairy tale,  you will be waiting for every smile, good gesture of your narcissist, pleasant moments for two ... and  these moments will be like matches in a fairy tale that  warmed up  body of a little girl, but sooner or later they faded out. Do you remember what happened to the girl from that fairy tale? She died.  Do you want to be like her?   

Remember!

    Narcissus doesn't need it  Your love. Only your own. So don't try to "fix" it. You will never be able to "fix" anyone. Moreover, you shouldn't. Everyone has their own path to follow and become a healthy person.  Everyone has to walk this path on their own, making their own mistakes, learning to pick up and discover how to love themselves. Without these valuable lessons, no one will have enough love to give it to someone else. Attempt  getting the narcissist to love you  it's like carrying a baby in your arms and waiting for her to walk. Sometimes too much help can make the other person disabled. You have to learn some things yourself. And the narcissist is too scared  confrontation with the real world to understand that the emptiness he carries within himself can only be filled  by himself.  Unfortunately, without learning  to love oneself, narcissus injured people, all life  trying to get the love you  he is missing inside,  love from someone  important  someone who neglected him as a child - often his mother.

Do not let you become the person who is to "heal" the narcissist, give him "motherly" love and let him use and hurt you, only known to narcissists and short-lived  way.  You are not responsible  for someone else's journey. You are responsible for your own journey, your own feelings, your own life ...

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Not  allow a situation where you feel good  only then  when a narcissist praises you, when he tells you how important and valuable you are. Relying on someone else to make you believe these things will only make you dependent on them, and then you will become a victim again. You have to give it all to yourself.  Realize that you are a good and kind person,  that you are capable  to tremendous compassion and love and  that you yourself deserve love. If the other person doesn't reflect it in the way they treat you, it's time to leave.

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