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    Do you know the myth about Narcissus?

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    The mythical Narcissus was a beautiful young man with whom all girls, nymphs and goddesses fell in love, but he was not interested in anything.  He rejected them all and despised their love. Rejected  also love nymphs  The echo that vanished from despair until it stayed  only a whining voice from her - named after her "echo".

    Some versions of this myth say that the rejected sisters  Echo nymphs went to the goddess Nemesis asking for a punishment for Narcissus  rejection of Echo. Others that the spurned girls   prayed to the gods  about  punishment  Narcissus  behind  his  coldness  and  indifference  behind  excited  by  myself  love.    

Ultimately Narcissus  left  condemned by the nemesis or the gods to a life without human love. He fell in love with his reflection in the water as he bent down  myself  to the river.  Unable to touch  the object of your love  he died of despair, thirsting for an answer from his beloved from the water table.

    Like the mythical Narcissus, today's narcissists love their reflection in a relationship with another person.  Admiration in the eyes of others is for them a mirror in which they feel  review and maybe there would be nothing wrong with it if not for the fact that in relation to  a narcissist has no place for anyone but the narcissist.

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The truth is, we're all somewhere between utter disinterestedness on the one hand and arrogance and grandeur on the other. A healthy remedy shows a strong sense of self. At the other end is sociopathy. Therefore, it is important to distinguish between healthy narcissism and unhealthy narcissism and  if we meet someone with unhealthy narcissism - a sociopath - run away as fast and as far as possible.  

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Today we use the term "narcissism" to describe someone who is arrogant, haughty, selfish and outwardly charming.  This type of personality we can meet  in various areas of life, both as a man and a woman. They most often dominate among politicians, celebrities, actors, musicians, managers of various levels…. The form of narcissism they present could be  from mild  - even socially beneficial -  to extremely toxic and pathological.  

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If we were to consider narcissism on the axis, then at the healthy end there are narcissistic qualities such as authority, disobedience, and self-sufficiency that are very useful if you want to climb  rungs  ladders  corporate or become cool  entrepreneur. 

IN  the unhealthy part are traits such as privilege, exhibitionism, and exploitation that can make it difficult to maintain close relationships over an extended period of time  time.  

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How do a narcissist see these traits?

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Privileges - Narcissus​​ views himself as deserving of special treatment and additional rights that others do not receive. 

Exhibitionism  -​​ likes to show off, often in the wrong way. 

Exploitation - Uses other people to meet their own goals or needs, rather than seeing them as inherently valuable.

   These characteristics may explain why people in relationships with narcissists often do not feel noticed or respected.

  The first encounter with a narcissist is usually stunning. Many people describe them as a bolt from the blue, amazing magnetism, tremendous attraction. A narcissist is a person who can seduce like no one with an attractive appearance, wit, eloquence, intelligence  or a way of being. If he decides to get you, your chances are slim to defend yourself against it. He will do whatever it takes to achieve his goal and be so dazzling that you won't even notice you  will get you into a hot romance, like in a movie, and then just as quickly  will devour and spit it out when it's done  with you  get bored.

    If you are attractive but insecure or a type of "donor" in a relationship, then you are the perfect target for the narcissist.  

Be careful! 

If, in a relationship with a newly met partner, you feel that something is too good to be true, then it is.  I can assure you that  It's not  the person you want to make a life with, unless you are  a fan of intense jumps of emotions like on a roller-skate in an amusement park - from ecstasy to deep despair.

If you decide that the "wonderful" partner you are starting a relationship with is the narcissist , run away as fast and as far as this  possible, otherwise you are stuck in a suicidal one  cycle  feelings of guilt, anger, self-blame, and emotional and physical trauma. Best to burn all bridges behind you, block contact in phone calls and messages… if you leave it though  the smallest gate through which he can get in  slip through, the daffodil will re-guide you  he will manipulate and charm, and then he will again go hunting for a new victim.  AND  if  it will not  You already  needed ...   then he will abandon you without regret.  Narcissists usually don't see the need they would have for  change. I am not saying that it is not possible, but it is certainly very difficult for a narcissist.

if  Your relationship with a narcissist for some reason  prevents you from escaping from it, for example yours  parent is narcissistic  type  personality, learns how to cope with contact  with a narcissist .  

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6 signals that may indicate that you are encountering  a narcissist

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1. Not all that glitters is gold ...

    For the narcissist  very  superficial things are important  aspects  life, such  like status, weight and physical beauty. This shallowness and superficiality  is for them  A lot  more important  than  deeper  values. Narcissists do  the need to always look good. Their wardrobe is  full of the latest fashion and clothes for every occasion, they take care of impeccable manicure and pedicure  or spending a lot of time in the gym building muscles and sculpting your body. They have perfect make-up or show off a seductive cleavage or pride themselves on  muscular body. Usually they are  persons  assessed  as more physically attractive. Narcissists make sure they look good, but they don't necessarily interact well with other people.  

    if  looking at someone  It occurs to you that this someone might be a narcissist, this  it probably is!

    In one study ( 1 ), researchers asked participants to fill out a scale that measures narcissism, and then photographed them. Observers who didn't know  participants  tests  nor their score on the Narcissism Scale, they were able to identify more narcissistic people from the photos alone!

     Be careful because  that tall and insanely handsome guy who buys you a drink, or this phenomenal woman with a tempting one  neckline,  who flirtatiously smiles at you,  he can be a wolf, that is, a narcissist in sheep's clothing!

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2. Narcissists are thrill-seekers.

    Many narcissists love to take risks. They don't like rules and are bored with routine. They look for emotions and challenges, both in their work and   intimate relationships, sexuality,  physical activity ... Many narcissists love to travel  and provide yourself with new ones,  "Special" experiences. They like to surround themselves and possess themselves  beautiful things (probably including you). They can be wine or art collectors, athletes, high-power lawyers, bond dealers, models or surgeons ... Many narcissists are successful entrepreneurs both because they like to win and win, and because they think it makes sense to build their own business. kind of empire.

    Research shows that narcissists  they are looking for more variety in their sex lives. 

Narcissus  loses  interest when the expectation of intimacy increases or when it wins  in your  game. Many have difficulty maintaining a relationship for over six months to several years. They prefer power over intimacy and hate a sensitivity they consider weakness. ( 2 ) To stay in control, they avoid intimacy and prefer domination and superiority over others. Such a playmaking  provides them with the perfect balance.  They do  own needs,   while leaving  open options to flirt or date multiple partners ( 3 ), P reluctant to take drugs and alcohol. They also like drama as well  intensity and hate to be ignored.

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3. All about them and  for them.

Narcissus  they are so preoccupied with themselves, with their goals, and with their satisfaction that they rarely or never focus on you. When the narcissist meets  You  for the first time and you are seen as a reward, maybe  give you attention, compliments, gifts, invitations to unique places or expensive restaurants. But when he knows that he won you, you are no longer a shiny new item for him (or her), and they quickly get bored . They can be womanizers or hunters that  they are constantly looking for a more attractive and interesting partner. Someone who  according to them, it is really worth them. They may have commitment issues and may not want to limit their options. Or they may move in with you, but then expect to do all the routine, dirty or thankless housework, and complain that you are not doing them well enough. After years of trying to please the narcissist or fulfill him  his  According to strict standards, many partners give up their difficult relationship with the narcissist and leave.

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4. Narcissus is not interested  how are you.

There are two ways to empathize with another person's emotions and experiences. 

Cognitive empathy means that​​ you understand how others feel intellectually. You have the ability to take the other person's way of thinking and you can look at  reality from its perspective. 

Emotional empathy means that​​ you can put yourself in the other person's shoes, understand deeply how they feel, and show them care and compassion. Persons  with emotional empathy they understand what is the cause of the other person's feelings (joy, anger, pain ...) they can imagine them, they can also feel these emotions.

Some studies show that if you ask a narcissist to put himself in your shoes (step into your shoes) and look  on the problem  from your perspective, it is able to understand what you are feeling, even though it is not  the natural ability of the narcissist. Narcissus, on the other hand  he does very poorly  deal with emotional empathy. If you are hurt and angry, for good reasons, and you try  explain this to the narcissist, this one can  just walk away, pretend not to hear, or become furious and defensive, and if you've ever witnessed a narcissist's rage then you know it's not a pretty picture!  If you are upset for the reasons that  don't concern the narcissist, this  he will probably say  For you to accept that you are exaggerating or that you do not understand why you got into this situation.

    It's not entirely that a narcissist is a psychopath who doesn't feel empathetic.  For a narcissist, empathy is more like an unused muscle -  kind of  it is, but useless anyway, and the narcissist has no need to train it.

    A narcissist may have a brain that is less able to empathize with your emotions.  needs or sorrows. Several brain studies ( 4. ) have shown that narcissists  they have less gray matter on the left front part of the island  the brain - the one associated with empathy and compassion.

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5. Narcissists never take  responsibility.

    Narcissists are experts at avoiding responsibility for their painful, neglectful, or even malicious behavior. Some psychological theories suggest that narcissus  constructs  "False me"   to defend against a hidden feeling of shame and defenselessness.  Such a narcissistic "me" tells him  - you are  better than others, so you can and deserve more.

    Many narcissists were raised in homes where love, praise, and attention were only given for excellent results. Parents  wished their child was "great", and  if it did not live up to expectations  heard the words of criticism, or  it was left to itself without the attention and love of a parent.  It's like parents  perceive the child and how they relate to it  it is the basis of what becomes his own "critical inner voice."  If a child feels neglected or unnoticed  by a parent (often also narcissistic) can become dependent on a fantasy of what kind  is  exceptional.  These  the illusion must later  sustain others. Therefore, the narcissist  it needs the admiration of the environment  at its own address, and all accusations and criticisms of imperfection are felt very acutely and personally by the narcissist.

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6. Words don't mean anything.

                         Narcissus  maybe  to talk,  that  cares  myself  about  you  or  apologise  behind  badly  behavior  and  promise 

improvement,  but...  Invariably  is progressing  at the same hurting  way. This may be due to his difficulty in controlling his own impulses ( 5. ).                   

    Some  tests  the brain  narcissus   they indicate  on  cavities  In  these  areas of the brain that regulate and control negative emotions  impulses. This is why,  though  narcissus  maybe  to have  good  intentions  and  maybe  try  myself  to be  consistent  this 

he is eventually distracted by the things that are there for him  more satisfying and meet his needs.

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Article written on the basis of 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201509/6-ways-tell-if-you-re-dating-narcissist