Narcissus and alcoholic similarities

Narcissus is a personality disorder while the alcoholic is an addiction.  WITH  Seemingly, various psychological aspects have more in common than you might think.  

Both a narcissist and an alcoholic:

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They are driven by their addiction.

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For a narcissist, it is about the attention of others. For an alcoholic - alcohol.  Both a narcissist and an alcoholic  tend to view others as enabling factors (which will help them attract attention or maintain their addiction) or as a potential threat (which hinder their campaign of self-exaltation or freedom to drink).

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Calculus.

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Due to a lack of empathy and a sense of superiority, the narcissist  thinks he has  the right to do what they want, despite the rules or the costs they incur  others.  For the same reason an alcoholic  it becomes  be very resourceful in getting alcohol.  In a way, addictions like alcoholism are narcissistic acts because  they put stimulants (alcohol, drugs, gambling) above all else, no matter how high  costs are borne by others.

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Shame .  

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Avoiding shame drives many of the behaviors of narcissists.  Narcissus  often embarrassing  others to hide their own imperfections.  For alcoholics, drinking dulls or masks the shame they carry.

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Occupied  myself.  

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Both narcissists and alcoholics feel entitled.  For narcissists, relationships are the most important thing.  For alcoholics, freedom to drink.  While both narcissists and alcoholics may appear to function normally when not triggered by a loss of narcissistic supply or when not intoxicated, self-care will inevitably reveal themselves over time.

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Untruthful.  

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Narcissism is characterized by pretending.  Narcissus  believes that he is doing nothing wrong when lying freely to promote his image.  Likewise, denial sustains the alcoholic's addiction. For the alcoholic, denial manifests itself in many ways, for example, the alcoholic can say that he can  stop drinking whenever they want, lying about when they drink or refusing to acknowledge that drinking them costs money.  Therefore, the participants of the therapy  addiction treatment (program  12-steps) introduce themselves by name and then speak  "I'm an alcoholic." This is to break through  negation.  

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Avoiding introspection.  

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Narcissists avoid self-reflection.  It would risk encountering the emptiness they carry within themselves.  Similarly  addicted people  - can feel  insecurity and lack of self-esteem.  As long as the addict reaches for stimulants (narcissist for attention, and alcoholic for alcohol), these feelings are to a great extent  they remain unanswered. And the longer these feelings remain unanswered, the more difficult it is  it can be more discouraging to look inward - self-reflection -  and bringing them  forehead.

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Blame.  

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Narcissus  blames quickly  other that  they force him  for action  and  rarely apologizes  or admits  to blame.  That would be a sign of weakness, and  narcissus  always has to  feel better  and impeccable.  Similarly  alcoholic -  has  lots of excuses  why is drinking. Many alcoholics may apologize for their behavior and  promise to start a new life. However  without a specific action plan i   pledges to get treatment, their repeated apologies and broken promises ultimately don't matter much to loved ones.

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Emotionally unbelievable .  

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Narcissists have emotions for show - they demonstrate  feelings that aim to present a positive image or manipulate others.  Alcoholics likewise may shed tears from crocodiles at the cost of their addiction, but such displays are often meaningless.  In addition, narcissists' defenses and the power of addiction for alcoholics make it difficult for them to maintain long-term authentic relationships.

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Tendency to retreat, stone, or attack in confrontation.  

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Narcissists and alcoholics can become highly defensive if you question their actions or indicate unhealthy behavior.  They may both sulk, become uncommunicative, or throw up

at you for pointing out the errors and dysfunctions they desperately try to deny or hide.

Destructive both for yourself and for others.  

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People close to both narcissists and alcoholics experience deprivation, rejection, and feelings of manipulation.  In addition , over time, both narcissists and alcoholics sacrifice their well-being, reputation, relationships, and self-esteem in pursuit of better well-being - narcissus or the highs that arise from drinking - alcoholic.

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Some people have both narcissistic personality disorder and active addiction.  Dealing with a person with a dual diagnosis can be more difficult than if the person had only narcissism or untreated alcoholism. The following approaches can help you deal with someone who is a narcissist, an alcoholic, or both.  

• Understand that people with personality disorders and addictions have calculated and distorted views of themselves and others that they do not want  nor do they need to change.  

• Remember you can't help it  narcissistic or alcoholic behavior.  

• Remember that you are not responsible or cause another person's narcissism or addiction.

• Don't justify dysfunctional behavior, narcissists, or alcoholics.  

• Don't try to protect narcissists or alcoholics from the consequences of their dysfunctional activities.  Be clear about what you will and will not tolerate.

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Source:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/narcissism-demystified/202012/10-ways-narcissists-and-alcoholics-are-similar

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